Your Purpose in Life


“Our aspirations are our responsibilities”

Dr Samuel Johnson, English Essayist, 1709-1784


Research has shown that a contributing cause of depression is the lack of purpose or direction in life. Obviously, other factors contribute to this. But even if you do not suffer from depression, life should have meaning to us – whether it is our work, our home or our family and friends. Finding your purpose in life and finding your direction is mutually inclusive. It is a sure way to awaken your sacral and solar plexus chakras.

The sacral chakra is about desire and pleasure, whilst your solar plexus chakra is about will-power and energy. The combination of desire and will-power is explosive. When these two chakras are balanced then you have self-confidence and are not influenced by others. Whether you suffer from depression or simply what to achieve a life goal, the first thing to do is to formulate a plan, then set about taking action. Srikumar Rao, writer of “Happiness at Work: Be Resilient, Motivated and Successful – No Matter What”, explains that you do not need to achieve your goal, merely having a goal and working towards it makes you happy. Stress comes when we are too preoccupied in not having reached our goals!

All things are created twice: once in your mind and then in reality. To achieve any goal, it is good to write it down in a PERSONAL WRITTEN STATEMENT. Before you do this, I suggest you go through some very simple steps as the groundwork.


Stephen R. Covey, in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People“, suggests that in order for you to understand what you want from life is to imagine yourself at your own funeral. Ask yourself what you would like your friends and family to be saying about you. What character would you like them to have seen? What of your achievements would you like them to remember? From there, you will be able to determine your CORE VALUES. This will determine what your definition of “SUCCESS” is and your BEHAVIOUR will reflect this. You will be able to put your ladder against the right wall.

Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Effective People”


We humans are in the fortunate of position to be able to choose what we want from life. We are responsible for our own lives and should be able to carry our own ‘weather’ with us. If we internalise our values, then we are not affected by other people’s feelings, attitudes and behaviour. What other people may say about you is more about their concern for their own weaknesses rather than your fact. “You drink like a fish” is more about their concern about their drinking habits, than yours. Taking responsibility for your own life and taking the initiative to be proactive in determining what it is you want to do creates your PERSONAL VISION. Those who take this initiative are the most happiest and most effective.


Understanding your ‘Circle of Influence’, again from Covey, will provide you with an understanding of what you can control and where you have little control in your life, only influence. I suggest you take some time to think about this – it is extremely powerful. They will help manage your stress, which mostly comes from things we can’t control. Outside of this circle are aspects you can not control. Accept these and learn to live with them, don’t let them control you; these include past mistakes!

based on Stephen R. Covey’s ‘Circle of Influence’


What is your centre? PRINCIPLED-CENTRED is the most effective (according to Covey), as these are deep dependable truths, with common denominations which are bigger than people of circumstances. The other, centers include: Spouse-centred, Family-centred, Money-centred, Work-centred, Possession-centred, Pleasure-centred, Friend-centred, Energy-centred, Self-centred.

To determine your ‘centre’ answer this question. There is no right or wrong only insight: You have tickets for a film you are taking your partner to see tonight and they have been excited for weeks. You are also meeting your friends beforehand for a meal. You boss calls you to ask if you could stay behind to work on a presentation which needs to be made at a meeting at 9am the following morning. Your boss offers you overtime or time off in lieu. What do you do?

So as to give you some help with your own insight, I shall tell you what my answers would have been at different stages of my life:
Child: go to see the film – self-centred, 20+: stay behind to work – money/work centred, 30+ go to see the film – spouse/family centred, 40+ stay behind to work – weak heart chakra, Now: go to see the film – principle-centred.

5. S.M.A.R.T.

Think about your written statement in terms of SMART:

SPECIFIC: What do you want to achieve? Why do you want to achieve it? Where? How? When? With whom?

MEASURABLE: What are the physical manifestations of your goal? So how will you feel? What will you see? How are you going to measure it?

ACHIEVABLE: Is it attainable with the time, money and talent you have? Have you weighed up monetary profit and loss? Have you weighed up your personal profit and loss? What will you give in return?

RELEVANT: Is this goal relevant to you? Do you really want it or is there another way of satisfying your desires? Is it worth it?

TIMEBOUND: What is the deadline? What are the smaller deadlines? Are they flexible enough to maintain motivation and morale, but stringent enough to ensure action? Can deadlines be altered?


Write your written statement in the present tense. That is how your subconscious mind hears it and believes it is already a reality. Mix in your values and principles and what you will give back in return. The only way I can explain is by showing you my original written statement. It has changed slightly already, but that is OK:

“I am a Lifestyle Entrepreneur who provides effective self-help solutions to people, enabling them to maintain a balanced life. I work on an individual basis and within groups through workshops. I provide products which enable people to achieve this balance. I work with truth and trust, ensuring that any relationships are win/win. I live a balanced life myself encompassing my model, so that I can communicate my work with integrity. By 2nd December 2023, I will have created a £1 million business and this will come to me in various stages during this interim. This money will ultimately fund my spa retreat by the sea for people who require some quiet, peaceful space. In return for this, I give the most efficient service I am capable of, in the most quantity and at the best quality. I have a cash flow that enables me to look after my family financially and treat them to holidays. I maintain an organised and comfortable home. I ensure my husband is happy and that my children are flourishing; I look after my face and body, keeping healthy through exercise and food; I continue to efficiently look after our other areas of financial interest. I follow my dreams and keep a healthy emotional boundary between myself and other people’s problems.”